Go Ask Lara #9, mother loses custody of her baby in divorce

Dear Lara,

I cannot even understand why I am able to form sentences or speak or reach out for help.  I was in a court battle with my ex and he had a better lawyer than I did.  He managed to get full custody of our 13 month old baby.  They used everything they could against me and I cannot believe I lost completely.  I feel like killing myself only my mother lost her husband, my father, already and I don’t want to put her through losing a daughter also.  I don’t expect anything to help me at this point, but I felt compelled to write you. 

Feeling Crazy and on the Edge of Insanity,

T.L. in AZ

Dear T.L.,

I cannot imagine what you must be going through.  I have “heard” a message from Divinity to tell you.  Abraham, as channeled by Esther Hicks, a group entity that is pure wisdom and love, teaches us that it is not easy to go from a low vibration to a high vibration.  That is difficult and uncomfortable, to say the least. However, this is what I am hearing for you to do.  Look at is as an Olympic challenge that you are capable of, if you focus well enough.  Understanding that a huge vibrational shift is not easy is important.  You will be aware of what you are embarking on and will be better equipped for the journey. It is sort of like knowing that you will encounter snow and ice, being prepared helps you tremendously for the trek. 

If you go to therapists, sitting in offices, talking about your woes, you will not shift your vibration very much.  You might feel better sometimes, but you will go back to the vibration of sorrow and despair most likely.  You can go to support groups, but others there will hold a low vibration of sadness and you will pick their sorrow up and add that to your own.  You are being called for a soul challenge here.   Find the best music that suits you, that is uplifting and has a strong beat to dance to.  Use your rhythm, your passion for dance to lift you out of the quicksand that would only pull you down further and create other problems.  Force yourself, no matter how you feel, to dance to this music for at least 45 minutes a day.  If you can do it more than once a day, good.  If only for 30 minutes twice a day or even once a day, keep doing this.  When you are dancing, let go of everything, every thought.  Just feel the body moving and hear the music and be transported.  Allow yourself to get beyond the sorrow by sweating and moving with rhythm.  Your goal is to feel joy from the dance and music as much as possible.  Even if you feel so down you cannot get up and feel tired and cannot move from depressed lethargy, dance anyway.  If you like to sing, add that as well. 

It is quite a challenge to nudge yourself into joy when your vibration is far from that.  The music and movement will help you get there.  You won’t have to do this with your own will and volition. The energy of passion and the inspiration of the sounds in the music will assist you.   Your task is to put the music on and clear the space to dance and force yourself to do that even if you feel like not existing.  This will make you extremely strong.  Again, it is an extreme challenge to go from acute sorrow to the joy of dance with energetic, uplifting music. The music choice is key here.  It has to be pushing you to move just by hearing it. It has to take you out of your mind and emotions and into an uplifting energy vibration.   Spend time gathering the right kind of music for yourself.  

Set your intention for what you are embarking on. This is Magic.  It is alchemy.  It is shifting from one reality to another, from one vibration to another with the aid of movement and sound.  Again, if you feel like singing, sing.  But, keep to uplifting sounds.  Your blood cells will respond and your aura will reflect the energy shift.  Bring in help from the Higher Realms as you do this so that you feel supported in this embarkation.  This is a huge journey across a vast ocean. But, if you stick to it, you will encounter a Self you have never known before.  Your inner strength will amaze you.   This applies to any tragedy.  But, there are different remedies depending on the person and if they have legs to dance or vocal cords.    In your case, use what you have.  You have your legs, your hearing and your rhythm.  Use these to jump to another vibratory category.  Keep at this for an extended time period, if not forever.   Your diligence will be rewarding to the rest of the world who will gain much with you, energetically.  

Good luck on this journey!  Don’t miss a day.  Each day is sacred.  

Lara

Lara De Ann is a writer of books available on www.EmpireOfTheSunspirit.com and e-books currently on Kindle.  She also gives Insightful Guidance over the phone.  As a non-religious Ordained Reverend, she does spiritual weddings and memorial services. 

Go Ask Lara #8, man loses fortune, must discover another one inside

Dear Lara,

I had everything I ever wanted and, in the course of a few months, lost it all.  I worked hard to be on top of the world and it all crumbled to the ground.  I had it all and now I have to work for a living, joining the rat race, sweating for a pay check.  I feel like I am living in a nightmare.  This kind of loss is too much for me to handle.  Life has become a chore, before it was a dream.   Don’t know if I can make it through.

D. B. in Texas

Dear D. B.,

Loss is loss.  Someone can lose their parakeet and be completely devastated.  Someone can lose their arm or fortune or home or family and all react in the same way.  We cannot know what another person really feels because we are not standing in their shoes.  However, there is always a way out from pain and all losses have lessons to learn that can lead us to great soul expansion.  Everyone on this planet goes through something to learn from and hopefully is able to expand to an evolved state of being.  It may take time and effort, but we are here to become more advanced and compassionate beings. 

The monkey mind makes it all too easy to just look at loss and be consumed by it, running from thought to thought, creating more and more unease which can lead to dis-ease if we allow it to run and take over our lives.  We can allow our thoughts to completely run us or we can choose to learn to focus on what makes us feel better.  When we focus on feeling better and allow ourselves to dwell on what we do have, the Law of Attraction attracts to us that which feels like wealth. The truth is that underneath the sense of loss of riches, is a gold mine.  Sometimes we are forced to look at simplicities and aspects that we previously took for granted.  For example, do you have your eyesight, your ability to move around, your hearing, sense of touch, sense of humor, brain to reason, ability to communicate, etc.? These cannot be replaced, they are priceless.  If you strip everything away what is tangible and acquired from the outside world, you will still be left with a gold mine.  Who you are is priceless and irreplaceable.   Sometimes, however, thoughts like these, though true, don’t help us get out of feeling our sense of loss. We can get addicted to emotional pain, addicted to looking at what isn’t there that we miss.  We can spend our whole life trying to recover from one big blow.  But, do we really want our life to be wasted on what isn’t there, or do we wish to put effort in so that we can rise above.  After all, we are all here to learn to grow, overcome, get stronger within, and allow ourselves to soar, even if our wings had been clipped.

Take for example Satyam Nadeen.  He was in ecstacy selling Ecstacy, a drug that induced feelings of euphoria.  He became a huge financial success and most likely believed that he was helping people feel what it is like to be ecstatic so that they can bring that experience into their life.  They would have an experience of perfection and could have a reference feeling for what they could create without the drug.  He was swimming in money until he got caught and was thrown into jail. His financial freedom was contrasted by no freedom at all.  However, by the grace of the universe, he “woke up” in jail.   He became aware and awakened, expanded and pure.  Later when he was released he began to be in service to others, helping them to achieve inner freedom.  His prison sentence did not limit him.  He became free from the inside.  His book, From Onions to Pearls, sheds light on real freedom, the kind that cannot be lost.

In addition to choosing to uncover our freedom within and accept our value as a sentient being, regardless of what we can carry, there is also another way to look at financial loss.  Abraham, as channeled by Esther Hicks, would explain that we can create whatever we desire as long as we understand the Law of Attraction and be the vibrational equivalent of our desires.  In short, if we feel wealthy, we will attract that. 

In the work of Byron Katie, she teaches us to look at our beliefs and statements we make that we hold to be true.  If you think that you can never reclaim the riches you once had, she would ask you:  How Do You Know That To Be True?  Is it written in stone that you cannot manifest great prosperity more than once? Perhaps do a metaphysical experiment.  Affirm and intend that who you are is totally abundant.  Allow yourself to see the prosperity in your life now and feel more and more being attracted to you simply by thoroughly understanding the Law of Attraction and paying attention to your thoughts and feelings.  You don’t control the universe, but you do control how you feel, what you think, and what you choose to focus on.  We create the “what” and let go of the “how.”  Money can come from many directions.  We don’t have to know how it will come to us, we can just instead choose to be thankful for its arrival.  In addition, we can also ask directly for what we desire.  If we would like a piano, we can visualize that piano in our living room and feel the elation of playing it.  We can use  our imagination to bring about the manifestation.  Then, in this case, we don’t need the money to buy the piano; we just focus on the desire: the piano.  An acquaintance of mine did this and someone he knew was trying to get rid of his piano and was looking for someone to take it off of his hands.  

When I was traveling without money on my trust walk, detailed in my book Piece of Planet or Planet of Peace: A Journey Through Letting Go Told in Prose and Poetry, I had asked the universe for money.  I heard, “don’t ask for money, ask for what it is that you desire specifically.”  In that moment, I realized, I had not needed anything but to lighten my pack on my back.  I threw a bunch of excess clothes and a deck of playing cards that taught simple Portuguese (I was traveling in Mexico) in the back of someone’s pick-up truck on the side of a road.  In that moment, I didn’t need to acquire; I needed to let go.

What you have let go is huge.  You might have let go of a fortune, but you also let go of what you thought you needed in order to be happy.   The universe has a sense of humor as it teaches us to expand.   Roll with the flow and feel the richness of who you really are inside.   Soon your prosperity will grow in many different ways and you will have gone beyond your previous limitations.   Your courage on this journey is grand and I salute your progress.  Your kind heart is priceless. 

Cheers to a Higher Form of Prosperity,

Lara

Lara De Ann is a writer of books available on www.EmpireOfTheSunspirit.com and e-books currently on Kindle.  She also gives Insightful Guidance over the phone.  As a non-religious Ordained Reverend, she does spiritual weddings and memorial services. 

Go Ask Lara #7, wife has trouble with husband

Dear Lara, 

My husband gives me a lot of problems.  He is not attentive, feels he is entitled to have me do things for him, does not seem to care about how I am feeling.  I am not a young chicken and it is too late to go about divorcing him.  I just want some peace.  I have been bringing in the money, but he won’t let me make the decisions on what to do with that money.  I feel like a slave and that I made a mistake with my life by marrying the wrong person.  I cannot die yet, but that option looks good.  Have any ideas?

B.F. in CA

Dear B.F.,

I feel for your life. Life sometimes has suffering in it until we realize that and do what we can to alleviate that in our lives.  If we don’t pay attention to our own needs and internal guidance, but just cater to another, we are in for an uphill amount of suffering.  But, it is about balance because serving another  can also alleviate suffering.   I suggest paying attention to how you feel every day and realize that in order to let go of suffering you have to create the feeling of peace within and focus on that. Then you do not focus on him, you focus on this newness that you give to you.   What about finding a peaceful place to walk and be.  You need to boost your own confidence when you feel depressed.  Chronic depression undermines confidence and can lead to other negativity and health issues as well.  If you realize that you need to have something at your fingertips that you enjoy that you can do every day, then you are focusing on taking care of yourself. 

I suggest somewhere to walk or be, someplace maybe you haven’t been before at a time of day that you haven’t previously experienced much.  Perhaps an early morning walk in a peaceful place will give you something to look forward to that is also healthy for you.  Or perhaps adding dancing in your living room to music you enjoy.  Put yourself in a special place every day that feels nourishing to you.  The key is to nourish yourself so that you take your focus off of the problem.  Your mind was focusing on the things wrong with your husband.  There might be many starring at you in the face from morning till night.  It is up to you to create something different because he will still be there.  Once you soften the focus on him and re-focus it on something that is healthy and feels good that you give to yourself, then your own well being will be your new direction.  He might even notice or feel the change in you and get inspired to do something similar to make himself feel better on his own.   

When you make the commitment to take care of yourself by adding that which is peaceful and nourishing, then you invite more good into your life.  When more good is focused on, more good happens.  Know that you deserve good.  Perhaps a stroll in a beautiful place becomes a sacred element in your life. Adding something sacred that nourishes you is a grand step toward taking care of yourself.  It will affect all around you, including this man.  

If we cannot change another, we can certainly change ourselves or something about our life to make it feel special.  It can be difficult to take away things, situations or people, but easier to add that which is harmonious to our day.  Your re-focusing on this addition of sacred harmony into your life has to affect a positive change.

I wish you the best.

Lara

Lara De Ann is a writer of books available on www.EmpireOfTheSunspirit.com and e-books currently on Kindle.  She also gives Insightful Guidance over the phone.  As a non-religious Ordained Reverend, she does spiritual weddings and memorial services. 

Go Ask Lara #6

Dear Lara,

I just came back from extensive traveling outside of the U.S. I don’t feel well.  I feel sluggish and not here.  I don’t want to spend the money to see a naturopath or herbalist. What can I do on my own?

Thanks,

T. O. in Washington

Dear T.O.,

You did not mention where you went, but I suspect you ate a lot of cooked foods that lacked fresh fruits and vegetables.  Sounds like you are dealing with an acidic condition and need to cleanse and become more alkaline. Don’t fret. You can heal yourself relatively easily and let food be thy medicine.  You don’t have to spend any extra money on pills or cleansing kits, although a juicer is a good investment.  You can buy a used juicer that is good enough.   You don’t have to bother with one that can extract the juice out of grasses, just get one that can extract the juice from kale and chard, etc.

Eat as much fresh organic salads as you can, both vegetable and fruit.  However, limit your fruit sugar intake.  If you have any parasites, they will crave sweetness.  Vegetable juices, salads and stir fry are good.  Listen to which green vegetables your body craves.  Add beets, but limit your carrots and other sweet vegetables.  Limit your sweet sugary intake and go for the greens instead.  Nut butter on celery for snack, tart apple, lots of water.  You might also need more water.  Don’t drink other drinks when your body wants water.  Don’t drink it too cold, either.  

Affirm that you are thankful for the amount of health that you do have.  Focus on what is going right instead of focusing on problems.  Be thankful for the clean, healthy organic food that your body craves.  Some seasonings are also anti-parasitic and good for cleansing liver.  Try turmeric and paprika and all sorts of herbs as your salad dressing with olive oil.  Stay away from bottled dressings.  Herbs are medicinal so creating a dressing from them is a great idea.

When you drink a lot of water throughout the day, you might want to add chlorophyll to make it more medicinal. They sell mint flavored ones in health food stores or online.  If you juice limes and lemons, add ice and a small amount of an alternative healthy sweetener like stevia or a bit of maple syrup, then  blend it all, it makes a very tasty alkalinizing and refreshing drink.  If you have spearmint leaves, add handful.  If you are in a cold climate, add lemon or lime to warm water. 

Once you start to cleanse with this food, you will want to eat more of it. When you begin to feel better quickly, you will see the benefits and keep adding more organics to your regimen.  Ginger is a good cleanser as well.  Add to juices, stir fry, float in water, and grate in salads.  You cannot go wrong with it, unless it is coated with white sugar.  

This will be an inexpensive way to get yourself back on a healthy track.  Once healthy, you will desire more and more ways to continue to improve your health. Good health begets good health.  Then other parts of your life follow.  You become healthier in many ways.  

I wish you good health and green living,

Lara

Lara De Ann is a non-religious Reverend doing weddings and memorial services.  She also combines healing and hiking and uses the Abraham Material as channeled by Esther Hicks as a template, as well as personal experience and what she “hears” from higher guidance.  Lara also does mind healing over the phone.  Check out her World Peace Necklace, spiritual books etc. on www.EmpireOfTheSunspirit.com 

Go Ask Lara #5

Dear Lara,

I have help questions about attracting the right mate. It has been a difficult haul.  I am not knowing what to do.  I have experienced unconditional love from animals and from a very high being who is no longer with us.  I have not had any success with a mate on this planet for many years.  Any suggestions?

With great hope,

S.T. in Texas

Dear S.T.,

I am hearing you on a great, deep level.  I understand what you are saying.  You are telling me that you have had the experience of Divine Love and you would like that again, but have not had an easy time attracting this and feel disappointed. The energy you emit is disappointment.  You cannot attract that which you desire when you hold such a vibration.  And at the same time, when you do the conventional things to find a mate, it makes you more disappointed. That is because you are desiring something that is very High and you are looking with disappointment in places where people are not on the level of what you really desire.  You also do not feel or think that what you desire exists.  So, that is a catch 22. You are wanting something that you believe doesn’t exist here, but you have not admitted that to yourself.  It then becomes an unending struggle and you can end up suffering in other ways because of this struggle.  It becomes a waste of valuable energy to yourself.  And we wonder why we have issues on the planet of limited resources and wasted energy.  Many of us are doing the same thing within our own lives. We are running unnecessary energy on things that make us tired and deplete us.  It is a micro of the macro. Our world is reflecting this in us as a whole. 

In order to succeed, first admit this all to yourself. Then take a Magical Step into another reality.  You cannot attract what you desire if you stand in your shoes in the reality you had been living.   Get a new pair of shoes.  You are wishing to attract a mate that is Higher than any mate you have ever been with.  They have to be from another type of reality, Higher in Mind, Soul and Emotion, yet still in a human body able to communicate with you in Loving, Higher Ways.  You need to clean out your mind and emotions of all of the previous experiences you had that involved mates that were not on this level.  You have to remove any negative talk about such beings in existence here. 

If you don’t have Magical Thinking and Feeling, then you will only attract the same kind of mates from the same cloth. You really don’t want this anymore.  You cannot share this information with naysayers because most people don’t believe in this kind of thing and will discourage you. Most people of the world discourage us unless they are Magical Thinkers themselves.  Do you know any Magical Thinkers?  Most just believe in a boring reality that the Cult of the World follows.  Many billions of people believe in this boring, negative, cult, so you cannot share this type of thinking with them.   

The mate you desire is so full of love for themselves and for you. They are an extremely High Being that feels like the Light of Love.  Meditate on you yourself being like this being.  See yourself as Loving yourself so completely that you can love another this way as well.  Visualize yourself full of light and love.  See light coming out of your eyes.  See and feel yourself as pure love.  Know yourself to be a humanitarian that Serves this planet by being this Pure Love.  As you know yourself as this being, you will attract another just like yourself.  This is what you really desire. You just didn’t previously see yourself this way so you could not attract a mirror of your Divinity. When you see yourself as Divine and feel and be that, sharing a healing energy wherever you are, then you will attract that which you are.  Then the Magical being who is the picture of self-love, who shares that love with you, will manifest into your life.  

Look deeply into your eyes when looking into a mirror and see yourself as this High Being and know and feel yourself attracting one just like your true self.  Then you will be in Service for others because you will know that the solution was in the problem.   Your own issue was your call to expansion. 

Keep me updated on your progress!

Lara

Lara De Ann is a non-religious Reverend doing weddings and memorial services.  She also combines healing and hiking and uses the Abraham Material as channeled by Esther Hicks as a template, as well as personal experience and what she “hears” from higher guidance.  Lara also does mind healing over the phone.  Check out her World Peace Necklace, spiritual books etc. on www.EmpireOfTheSunspirit.com 

Go Ask Lara #4

Dear Lara,

I have been to every therapist around and tried every healing modality.  I cannot take medication because my body throws it up.  I thought I would ask you since writing is free and I will not spend another dime trying to get help from healers and doctors and practitioners who don’t seem to have been with anyone like me, suffering in a peculiar way.   So, to go out on a limb, Lara, what do you suggest for this kind of suffering?

Waiting for your reply with hand on my hip,

P.W. in California

Dear P.W.,

You have not described the details of your suffering, but that is okay.  I will just tune in to see what I “hear.”   You will not be able to get help in any conventional sense, or even in the typical alternative modalities. There are some people who are on this planet who help to call in higher types of healing. At this time, even the alternative world doesn’t have access to these yet.  So, in a way you do us all a favor because you ask for something more and you are helping the world to bring it to the forefront.  For example, many people will read this letter and perhaps get help from it. This was from your contribution to the world.  Your unique situation was not helped by even the most alternative types of healing, so you help to call to the world another Way of Being.  Don’t try to get any help from the ways that are currently out there, you will only be disappointed and waste your money again.

You desperately need a tune up. A whole life, whole body, soul and mind tune up. You cannot get this tune up from any of the modalities present on the Earth at this time. What to do?  What to do is to take things into your own hands at this time.  Try not to worry about the ways of the world and what you have to do to fit in and cope in order to be healthy enough to participate.  Try not to think of those things or any ordinary worldly concepts. Yours is a unique case, although there are many people like you. They just don’t reach out that much to get help because they are like you, they have tried everything already with no results.  

Your tune up has to do with adding more Fun into your life and world.  This is not an easy task since  you have been taught the opposite from the world.  Your teachers in schools and parents and even “friends” have reinforced the opposite of your own unique type of fun.  Fun has to be safe for you and for others, has to be benevolent and kind.  That is important.   You don’t have to involve others, although you can if you want to and if that is possible for you.  Again, this is a big project because your current mental state doesn’t have an option for this.  Fun was not in your “genes” so to speak. It had not been part of your makeup, however it is in your Higher Self and Soul. You can access it if your life depended on it and it sounds like it might.   

Here is where you have to take things into your own hands.  I have no idea of what Fun is for you.  No one does.  You don’t know that either.  It cannot just be something you do sometimes or for a diversion. Incidentally, the word diversion is fun in Spanish.  This means that even embedded in language is the concept that fun is something that is a diversion from what is normal.  Do you see what I mean when I tell you it is not something that the world has allowed?  Years ago when I was going to college, I took a class on comedy.  At the time I had an independent major in screenwriting.   I asked the professor if I could write a comedy for a midterm instead of the normal type of boring essay.  He said, “no!”  That is a perfect example of how our creative flow, our flow of fun, is often thwarted by people who think they are helping us.  Instead, they do us harm and we have to spend large amounts of time trying to recover from being robbed of fun.  Don’t react to this. Just use your energy to be determined to live a life that is filled with enjoyment, with fun, with play, with pleasure.  Remember, it has to be benevolent or neutral. That is the only rule.  

You can write a list and keep adding to it.  But, this is not diversion, this is a new way of being.  You might have to quit things that are boring or leave people who are not in agreement.   You might have to go it alone for a while until you solidify your vibration of fun. Then you will attract others who are on this wavelength as well.  But, right now you do not have access to these types of people. You also, presently, do not have access to fun because your vibration is very heavy.  This is the difficult part. You have to bring yourself into alignment with fun by your own self, by your own unique creative expression, by what works for you specifically.  It will take a good amount of energy to be determined to make this shift, but once you do and practice fun continually, then you will have something to contribute to the world. Then your dis-ease will have served a grand purpose.  Until then, you might change your mind. You might think that fun is too hard to do that much of the time and be comfortable with diversion once in a while.  You might resist it because your mind is not programmed for this. 

 

This does not mean that you become complacent to the world altogether and stop caring about natural resources.  You do not get reckless in your fun, remember it has to be benevolent or neutral.  You can help more people in this world leading them to their fun than you can by picketing in the streets or complaining about the destruction of the planet.   After all, the reason people don’t care about their planet is because they have lost their connection to their own soul and the Soul Level is Fun.  The Soul Level has a sense of humor and benevolent, humanitarian enjoyment that serves all.   Then fun becomes Great Service. It is never for oneself alone, but becomes what is shared.  It becomes a humanitarian energy that lifts the energy of the planet like a dolphin’s laughter.  For me, I have Great Fun “listening” to what I “hear” from a Higher Source in order to help others.  That for me is my greatest fun.  So, fun is unique. It is not just a Disneyland of escape, it is a Way of Being connected to the Depth of our Soul.  

I encourage you to have the courage to embark on this journey.  It really is a journey; it is not a diversion.  

The solution is within the problem.  Your solution could save the world and then your problems would have been worth it.  

Lara

Lara De Ann is a non-religious Reverend doing weddings and memorial services.  She also combines healing and hiking and uses the Abraham Material as channeled by Esther Hicks as a template, as well as personal experience and what she “hears” from higher guidance.  Lara also does mind healing over the phone.  Check out her World Peace Necklace, spiritual books etc. on www.EmpireOfTheSunspirit.com